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ISBN:0340943734
Author: Esther Perel
ISBN13: 978-0340943731
Title: Mating in Captivity
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Language: English
Publisher: Harper; First Edition first Printing edition (2007)
Pages: 272

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel



Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. My sisters and I have all read this book as part of our family book club and can report much better marriages because of Esther Perel's advice. Nothing is a quick fix, but one step in a new direction can take you to new places. I recommend this book to everyone who wants a better intimate lly if you are willing to do the hard work of looking at your own actions and making small changes to be a better partner.

Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic. To my parents, Sala Ferlegier and Icek Perel. Their vitality lives on in me. Epigraph. Wild things in captivity. while they keep their own wild purity. won’t breed, they mope, they die. All men are in captivity, active with captive activity, and the best won’t breed, though they don’t know why.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex. Year: 2007. Other readers will always be interested in your opinion of the books you've read. Whether you've loved the book or not, if you give your honest and detailed thoughts then people will find new books that are right for them. 1. The Diary of a Young Girl: Anne Frank.

Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. The book reads very differently than Esther Perel's talks surrounding monogamy and non-monogamy, which I would highly recommend in addition to the book.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Publication date 2007. Topics erotic, psychology, sexuality, relationships, eroticism, monogamy, sexual. y sexuality; folkscanomy; additional collections. Identifier-arkark:/13960/t24b9d406.

In her landmark book The Second Sex, Simone de Beauvoir writes, Eroticism is a movement toward the Other, this is its essential character. Yet in our efforts to establish intimacy we often seek to eliminate otherness, thereby precluding the space necessary for desire to flourish. Complement it with philosopher Alain Badiou on how we fall and stay in love and Stendhal on why we fall out of it, then revisit Leo Tolstoy on love’s paradoxical demands, John O’Donohue on the enchantment of desire, and Kahlil Gibran on the difficult balance of intimacy and independence. books culture Esther Perel love psychology.

As Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence author Esther Perel can confirm, relationships are still complicated. We are creatures of meaning and we want to feel we matter. Why the first person to apologize holds the power. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

Reviews: 7
Whitesmasher
Got to this book late and am I glad for it. When it came out I was newly remarried and didn't need and wouldn't have heard the message. But seven years into a mid-life marriage I needed tips on answering Ester Perel's Big Question (from her excellent TED Talk): Can you want what you already have? Her answer seemed to be as I read: Sure you can. But it's work. And you better understand what's going on first.

Add to this that my whole arousal system of mind, body, soul and sex is older, as I'm in my mid 60s. Love what she said when asked how many times she'd been married: "Four. To the same man." This woman and mom and wife and therapist and speaker of 6 languages not only reinvented herself to stay hot for her man but to stay interesting for her two teen children living with mom/dad as a foursome. Yes, sex as a family value. From Belgium and Israel, her husband and two kids live or lived together when she wrote this from their flat in NYC. It's one thing to write how to stay hot for each other while married; it's another to pull it off and then even be able to communicate the complex system that makes it possible.

I gave one to a peer guy friend and one to my son. It's that good and helpful. They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Don't read this book too soon. Or too late either. But buy three copies and get ready. I say.
Zyniam
A friend asked me why he found sex with his wife "routine". He said he loved his wife and having sex with her still felt good, but he didn't feel "turned on". Instead, he found himself fantasizing about sex with other women. This book answers that question completely and helps one explore the contradictions and congruity of love and sexuality.
Silverbrew
Fascinating and enlightening. This is one of those books that make you better, educated, happier, confident and much more if you read this with a very open mind. Perel offers great insight into human desire -- for love, sex, connection, space -- and how we tend to thwart the very intimacy we crave by applying judgement to our desires. I haven't read a better reason to be hopeful that long term relationships can maintain, even increase, passion and desire than this.
Kulwes
If a book could save your marriage, this would be it! It has excellent advice about how to think about your intimate partnerships that will actually lead to real changes in the relationships. My sisters and I have all read this book as part of our family book club and can report much better marriages because of Esther Perel's advice. Nothing is a quick fix, but one step in a new direction can take you to new places. I recommend this book to everyone who wants a better intimate relationship--especially if you are willing to do the hard work of looking at your own actions and making small changes to be a better partner.
Snowseeker
Read it. If you can't read it, read the last chapter or two. However, I believe everyone who cares about their relationship or their own health will find themselves in a few of the many examples. The overall message of the duality or tension of the long term relationship and the distance needed for eroticism seems so obvious after having read this. There are many brilliant observations in this book, but I would also recommend the many lectures that the author has given which appear on YouTube, including her TED talks. I listened to a few before reading the book and a few after reading the book. It's funny how they made so much more sense after reading the book.
Mogelv
I think there is tremendous value in Perelman's insight that intimacy--marked by safety, closeness, and familiarity--and desire--marked by space, mystery, and risk-taking--are two distinct things. They not necessarily be opposed for many of us (thank God), but they are not the same, and need to be cultivated differently if we want to have a long term relationship marked by both loving security and erotic passion.
Manesenci
I learned about myself and my wife by reading this. This book can be used by lovers of any configuration or orientation to discover that their "selfish" desires are to be cherished and shared, not locked up.
I started listening to Esther's podcast which I loved and wanted to read her book as well. Her alternative views and unusual relationship advice is really mind-altering. Super interesting things to keep in mind if you're in a relationship. I thoroughly enjoyed this - to be frank it was kind of life-changing for me. Great read.